Self-Repair: Are You Ready To Have A Child?

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There is a huge degree of flexibility when it comes to choosing when to have a child. While many places have laws in place which stop people from being able to do this when they are still young, these rules will usually dip into a time when most people wouldn’t want to have children anyway.

Without a standard to live by, many people find it hard to know whether or not they are ready to have a child, and this choice is only made harder when you see the struggles which other people have when they pick (or it just happens!) the wrong time for a life changing moment like this.

To help you out, this post will be encouraging you to ask yourself some questions about your current lifestyle, and whether or not the time is right to to have a child around.

Can You Look After Yourself?
This first question may sound a little patronising, but it is crucial to your chances of success, and is something which a lot of people ignore. For example, if you struggle to eat a healthy diet, pay bills on time, or have other things in your life which you can’t keep up with, it could be worth working to improve yourself a little before having a little one.

Can You Afford It?
Most people can afford to look after a child, but this will often mean sacrificing a lot from your normal lifestyle to be able to do it. It isn’t a good idea to do this if it will make you unhappy, as even the most dutiful of parents needs to have elements in their lives which are separate from their children. Of course, some people will even struggle to afford a child if they spend nothing on themselves, and this usually isn’t a good place to be.

Are You Secure?
Security in life is a funny thing, and it doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to own your own home, have a triple-figure salary, or have loads of savings behind you. If you have family members who will be able to help you in times of strife, you can consider yourself secure. Many people don’t benefit from this in their lives, though, and this can make it very difficult to raise a child.

Do You Want A Child?
Society puts a lot of pressure on normal people to follow the same route as others. This often makes people feel like they have to have a child, even if they don’t want one. This is especially true when a couple find themselves pregnant, with many people struggling to find adoption for my baby when they are being pushed by those around them to keep the little one. Making the right decision can be hard, but it will usually be much better for the child if they are with a family which wants children, and this is never a reflection of you or your character.​​

It makes sense that you study and consider the probability of becoming a parent. Having a child is not easy and it is definitely life altering. You are biologically hardwired to pursue this element of life, but modern life often doesn’t make much room to have a little one with you all the time. Whatever decision you make, it’s crucial that you remember that you aren’t doing anything wrong, and you don’t have to listen to the pressure which comes from other people.

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​by Iconic Chica Mag Contributors