We all hope that we’ll be with the person we marry forever, but alas, this isn’t always the case. While the percentage of marriages that end in divorce has been steadily dropping, it is still pretty high, and could happen to anyone. And of course, going through a divorce can be a traumatic, stressful experience. There are things we can do, however, that’ll make things easier to manage.
Let Yourself Feel
If you’re going through a divorce, then there’s no getting around it: things are going to suck for a while. Sometimes, people try to put on a brave face through the entire process, but this isn’t recommended! You can’t experience deeply felt emotions, and try to suppress them. If you’re not feeling OK, then allow yourself to feel that way. You’ll find it much easier to manage things in the long-term if you’re giving yourself thirty minutes to cry and scream every few days, rather than stifling everything and just carrying on as normal.
Surround Yourself with Friends
One of the toughest things about getting divorced is that it can make you feel lonely. You were once two, and now it’s only you. However, in reality, this is rarely the case. You probably have a lot of friends and family in your life, too. Sure, it’s not the same as having a partner, but you’re verifiably not alone in this world. Rather than just sitting in your home by yourself, surround yourself with loved ones. They might just provide the few nuggets of wisdom and laughs that you need to remember that the world can still be a beautiful place.
Involve the Professionals
You’re going through an emotional time. But alas, there are also some logistical matters that have to be handled. There’ll be financial issues, divorce paperwork, and legal matters related to any children you have, to name just a few. Rather than handling these things yourself, look at working with professional experts. You’ll find things much easier to manage if you’re working with someone who is a specialist in child support, filing divorce paperwork, and so on. You’ll be able to focus on yourself, secure in the knowledge that the important things are being taken care of.
Look After Yourself
There’ll be times when you just want to lie in bed all day. But it’s important that you don’t become too withdrawn. Looking after yourself, be it through getting exercise, starting hobbies, eating well, and so on will make it easier to move on after the divorce has been finalized. It’s akin to taking the first steps of a new journey. It might not be fun, but you’ll be traveling to a good place.
This Too Will Pass
Finally, remember that even though things suck, it won’t be like this forever! Time really does heal all wounds. Be patient, treat yourself well, and you’ll see.