Many of us struggle with confidence and self-esteem. As mothers, it can seem particularly hard when you’ve had a bad day with the kids, when you haven’t left the house for days, are covered in baby sick, and realize your new life is different from your old life, which is totally okay by the way. Your body bounces back from childbirth and pregnancy, but even then it can be challenging to find that confidence again.
It’s not only mothers, women, girls and boys that experience low self-esteem. Men too go through these life changing events. Husbands, boyfriends, partners, fathers... they too experience those insecurities and struggle just like females do. Although it's usually not as obvious (and not even as much) since society does tend to focus more on female insecurities. But many men experience the same issues. They worry about their body, they struggle to feel connected with family they spend hours away from... They also feel like they can’t give work their all. They feel as if they're failing on all levels. But, while women often open up to their partners, it appears to be a lot more difficult for men to do so. This probably has a lot to do with society. Many men suffer in silence.
Low self-esteem can become a severe problem, which can need medical help. But, there is also a lot that you can do to help the men in your life see they're not alone. Because as women, we've definitely experienced it all or will in our lifetime.
Here’s a look at some of the best self-esteem boosting tips.
When you’ve got a young family, it can be hard to take time out for yourselves. Sometimes a night out is exactly what you both need to feel better and give your relationship a boost to remember what it’s like to just be a couple and not parents. Treat him to a new shirt from John Henric US collection, buy yourself a new dress, get a babysitter and go out for the evening. Even if it’s just for a quick drink or meal in your areal. It could do you both the world of good.
When we first start dating someone, we say nice things to them all of the time. We compliment them and as time progresses we forget those little details did in fact bring something extra to the relationship. We spend our mornings in a rush - sometimes getting everyone ready for their days- and our evenings running around- sometimes cooking, cleaning and doing bedtimes. We forget our partners. This goes both ways. Remind the men in your life you appreciate them. Give him a nice compliment. Give her a nice compliment.
These tiny complements might seem like nothing, but showing each other appreciation and that you are proud of him and/or her and reminded your partner you love each other appreciate what you do for each other, adds a boost to confidence.
Another thing that we do a lot of when we start dating is texting. Then, years in our texts say things like “don’t forget to buy milk” or “where are my keys?”, Not particularly romantic or mood-boosting. Take the time to send each other a quick “I love you” or a flirty message for no reason, just to make each other smile.
Most couples are guilty of giving their phones more attention than each other. We sit on the sofa with the TV on scrolling through social media. We even eat meals while glued to our phones. Put it down and give your partner your full attention. Have rules like no screens at dinner time or make a deal to turn them off on movie nights.
This will make all the difference.