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5 Signs Your Relationship Could Benefit From Marriage Counseling

8/30/2017

Many couples don’t seek out marriage counsel because they believe counseling means they’ve failed. In fact, marriage counseling can help couples have fulfilling and successful relationships. It sometimes helps to get an unbiased opinion from a third party and it may be that all your relationship needs is a gentle nudge in the right direction.

If your relationship is suffers from some of the following, you may benefit from marriage counseling.

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Lack of Communication
One of the biggest challenges in any relationship is communication. Once there’s a breakdown in communication it can be difficult to restore it. You may feel like you’re living with a housemate instead of a partner. If this is the case, a marriage counsellor could offer you new ways of communicating that you may not have thought of. Once that communication is restored, it will be much easier for the relationship to progress in a healthy direction.

Negative Communication
Perhaps you and your partner are communicating, but it’s in a way that makes you both feel bad. It could be that you’re constantly listing each other’s flaws or one partner is left feeling judged or insecure. Negative communication is often worse than no communication at all because it can lead to depression or emotional abuse. A marriage counsellor will be able to intervene when partners are communicating in a way that could potentially hurt one another.

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Withholding Affection as a Punishment
If one or both of you is using a lack of affection as a punishment, you may benefit from advice from Christian psychologists. Getting angry and choosing to ignore your partner or use the ‘silent treatment’ isn’t going to solve any problems. The Bible says, ‘Love is patient, love is kind’, and Christian marriage counselling teaches you to approach problems calmly and quickly find solutions, instead of getting overwhelmed and angry.

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Contemplate Having an Affair
If one person is contemplating having an affair, it’s a strong sign that the relationship isn’t giving either of you what you need at the moment. It’s important to seek marriage counselling before it gets that far. Marriage counselling has helped many people recover their relationships or come to the realisation that the relationship isn’t working and it’s best for both parties to amicably split. If an affair has already happened, it doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship is doomed. Seeking counselling could be exactly what’s needed to mend it.

Financial Infidelity
When you’re in a relationship, being transparent about your finances is important. If one partner is spending money without telling the other, or one partner has a gambling problem, it can cause major stress on the relationship. Use marriage counselling as a way of communicating to your partner the need to be honest about finances in the future. Regular sessions could be what you need to see a change in how honest you are with each other.

It's not easy dealing with relationship struggles, so why do it alone when you can get help from a professional? At the very least, it's a step in the right direction. Relationships are work and turning to a professional is a sign of wanting to salvage your relationship. It’s a no brainer!

By Iconic Chica Contributors

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The Proposal: Romantic Ways a Girl Can Pop The Question

8/16/2017

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Back in the day, it seems a proposal could only go down a certain way. The man with a ring in his hand, down on one knee, and solemnly popping the question. Luckily, we don’t have to be this traditional anymore, and you can do a lot to spruce things up, making your proposal a bit different than the rest.

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Use these brilliant ideas as inspiration, mix and match to make it suit your style, and get ready to feel like the luckiest girl in the world.

Do girls really propose?
I think it is safe to say that most girls are done with having to play the part of waiting around for a boy to find her attractive, take her out, and finally pull out that engagement ring when he feels ready for it. Our generation has done so well in beating gender stereotypes, and proposals from girls are becoming increasingly common.

Read up on the common proposal mistakes to avoid here and get ready.

Recreate your first date
Do you remember what you did together on your first date? If you started to date as soon as you met and went through a basic couple of first dates before becoming serious, you probably do remember the restaurant, time, and even the meal you ate. Other couples meet and start to date a bit less traditionally, but they can still find ways of recreating the first spark of romance between the two of you.

Cook up the meal you ate on your first date, go to the same restaurant, or simply cook his or her favorite meal if you’re not quite sure how all of this started in the first place. You can easily set a romantic tone without having to pull out the exact napkin they used to dry their lips with on that rainy day of October if you know what I mean.

Do something new together
When it all boils down to spending the rest of your lives together, you might as well show him or her just how much fun it’s going to be to spend it with you. Plan a date where you can do something new and exciting - maybe something your fiance-to-be has talked about for a long time already, such as going horseback riding or trying out surfing for the first time.

The proposal will be completely unexpected and fun, especially when you’ve spent the day exploring new adventures together. With such an amazing girlfriend, who wouldn’t want to spend the rest of their life having fun with you? Have a look at Baunat for some extraordinary engagement rings to complete the experience.

You want to spend your life together with someone you love and who appreciates you - no matter how you chose to pop the question, your perfect someone will be head-over-heels with happiness and love. It’s about making the moment special, though, and give you something to remember for ever.

With these fun and creative ideas, you’re sure to remember your special day and make a surprise out of it.

by Iconic Chica Mag Contributors

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5 Simple Tweaks For A Stylistic Reinvention

8/13/2017

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We’ve all been there, right. We’ve all woken up one morning and decided we’re bored of the way we look. We don’t like our hair style, have a wardrobe that overflows with nothing we like, and just have that icky feeling about the way we look generally. Most of the time this feeling passes, kind of like the flu; a couple of bowls of soup, a binge watch of New Girl and we’re back to our old self. But sometimes it doesn’t go, and we find ourselves desperate for a stylistic reinvention as a means to boost self-confidence. But how do we do this without doing something so drastic we’d be compared to Lady Gaga circa 2010 (#meatdress)? As much as we love our Lady Gaga.

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It’s All in The Eyes
One of the things we rarely consider tweaking is our eye color. But for such a small detail, it can change the way you look drastically. What’s more, it only takes a quick and inexpensive trip to the optometrist and, voila, you can become a whole new person. Big, brown and doe-eyed. Emerald green. A blue so crystal it is like looking into a Pacific lagoon. Whatever takes your fancy really.

Okay... And The Eyebrows
You’ll be amazed at how much your look can change when you alter the shape of your eyebrows. As the professionals at www.sculptureclinic.com.au will attest, it used to be all about thin and over-preened eyebrows, but that look is now long gone. It is all about the Cara Delavigne-style bushy brows, the kind that makes you look so much younger. Seriously. A quick transplant could give you that mysterious and powerful look you never realized you always craved. But of course, it's not necessary. You can tweak it all without having to undergo surgical levels.

Crazy Contouring
While Facebook used to be awesome, it has now become a dumping ground for sixty-second food videos and wannabe make-up artists showing off their abilities to completely transform their looks through clever contouring. As far as we can tell, as long as you have the time to watch the tutorials and learn the skill, you could acquire the

ability to shapeshift, transforming from Angelina Jolie one day to Jennifer Aniston the next. What? Still too soon? Come on. Really. But seriously, don't believe all the videos you see.

Colors, Colours, Colours
We all have a few go to colors, and they always tend to be neutral because it is safe, flattering and able to transcend the kind of event we’re talking about. But colors can say a lot about who you are, which is why it could be time to completely overhaul your palette, or at least add a few bursts of energy. We do recommend speaking to a professional on this front (not least because you will be totally gobsmacked by what they say) or just visit cladwell.com. But you basically want to choose colors that will complement your hair, skin, eyes and, well, your personality too.

New Bangs
One of the fastest, boldest and most wonderful ways to overhaul your style is to get yourself a new haircut, and not just a little trim to get rid of your dead ends. We’re talking about a new style, maybe even a bit of dye. What route you go down is completely your call, but a little scroll through Pinterest and consultation with your hairdresser could be all you need to start a new life. Wow, that was a bit melodramatic.

by Iconic Chica Contributors

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