Being a single mom can be challenging. You have to be two parents in one. You have to tackle all of the challenges that come with being a parent by yourself. However, you also get to have all of the joys and the love to yourself too! If you are currently a single mom or you are preparing for life as one, read on for some useful tips that can help you.
Don’t be harsh on yourself – This is the number one rule for any single mom! Don’t be harsh on yourself! Whether your baby is crying all of the time or you are struggling with weaning from swaddling, you should not give yourself a hard time. Things do not go smoothly as a parent. There are always going to be hurdles along the way – this is not a reflection on your parenting. Its just life!
Find a work schedule that suits you – One of the most difficult things about being a single parent is that you need to find a way to balance work with looking after your child. The good thing is that there are so many different types of flexible jobs available today, and so you should be able to find something suitable for you. Freelancing is a great example of this. You can work from home and you can tackle jobs as and when it suits you. You may want to rethink your current employment if it is too stressful and there is no flexibility.
Don’t worry about a relationship – A lot of single parents worry about relationships going forward. Should you find a man so that there is a father figure in your child’s life? Is your single mother status going to put people off? The only person worrying about these things is you. No one cares whether you date or you don’t date – just make sure you do it for the right reasons, i.e. because you want to!
Master the art of counting to ten – It is easy to lose your cool as a single mom because you need to be switched on all of the time and everything falls in your shoulders. This is why you need to master the art of counting to ten. Do not yell, as this will only make you feel worse and it is not good for your child. Instead, walk away and count to ten so you can give yourself a moment to get your thoughts together.
Congratulate yourself – Reward yourself when you make a delicious healthy dinner or when your child is finally potty-trained. You won’t have someone there to pat you on the back, but this does not mean your epic achievements should not be acknowledged.
Hopefully, you now feel more prepared and confident for life as a single mom. While there is no denying that there will be some hurdles along the way – this is part of any parent’s experience, so don’t be harsh on yourself.
Enjoy it and embrace double the amount of cuddles and attention!