All around the world, everywhere you look, men are proposing to women. For years, the thought of a woman proposing has seemed strange and unnatural. Some women say that you should never propose to a man. Some men say it’s an insult to their manhood. I say poppycock! What difference does it make if a woman proposes to her boyfriend? None. There’s nothing wrong with it at all.
Women have fought for years to have equal rights as men. You can’t campaign for equal rights and then play the ‘oh but it’s tradition for the men to propose’ card. It used to be tradition for the woman to stay at home while the man went to work. But we said goodbye to that tradition a long time ago. You should never shy away from something because of unwritten societal rules on gender. It’s ludicrous. As a woman in the 21st century you’ve been breaking traditions your whole life. You made it through the uncertain journey of college life. You went and got a job after graduation. You’ve worked hard your whole life to climb the career ladder as a woman. You’ve fought gender stereotypes for years; don’t give into another one.
Some women have put off the idea of proposing because they want that special engagement ring. If this bothers you that much, then you need not worry. If you propose to him, that doesn’t mean you can’t have an engagement ring as well. In situations like this the man can still buy you a ring. Some men feel obliged to do it, like it’s their rite of passage before you get married. If he wants you to buy you a ring and you two agree, why not call it a ring shop date? You can slyly hint at how much courage it took to propose. And that you deserve one of the lovely princess-cut rings shown here: https://diamondsky.com.au/engagement-rings/princess-cut. There’s nothing wrong with using your situation to be a bit persuasive, right?
Possibly the biggest reason people think women shouldn’t propose is because it’s wounding to your boyfriend's manhood. What a load of rubbish. Firstly, the idea of a man so insecure that he’s insulted by a proposal is hilarious. Secondly, if your boyfriend loves you, they won’t give a damn if you propose. They won’t be insulted in any way. They won’t feel any less of a man. If they love you, they’ll be happy. In many occasions partners are looking to propose and know they’ve found their life partner, but it’s also difficult to tell sometimes when and if it’s the right time. After all, it is a lifetime commitment. If they haven’t proposed, it may not be because they’re doubtful of you, but rather overwhelmed with nerves. Sometimes, switching it up and breaking traditions by proposing to them clears any doubt (if any) and it’s reassuring to them just how much they really love you.
Proposing shouldn’t be gender-specific. At the end of the day, if you love someone so much that you want to be with them, tell them. Prehistoric thoughts shouldn’t be an obstacle to proposing in the new age.